Breastfeeding Produces Milk not "Daddy's boys" Or "Daddy's girls"

I find it kind of amusing how almost everyone who approaches me when I'm with my two monkeys and they automatically assumes that one of the kids is Daddy's boy or girl. I have two happy kids on each hip (an almost 3 and 1 year old), while dad freely roams the isles ( do I sound jealous? I am!). Does it look like they belong to daddy?

Breastfeeding both my children has given us a very, very, very, very Strong bond, stronger then gorilla glue! I'm sure all breastfeeding advocates say "breast is best, you build such a strong bond". What they don't tell you is that as the sole provider for nutrition (breastfeeding, not pumping) your child will imprint your face in their brain, JUST LIKE A GOSLING

. You are the moon (their pamper), the stars (their pump cloth) and the sky (their wipey), and daddy (quoted from my husband) is "the help".

Not only are you the sole nutritional provider, you also end up doing everything else most of the time because lets face it, breastfed babies nurse a lot. You might as well change that poopy diaper dads running from, and while your at it change the clothes too. Might as well shower them, might as well do everything else!

I often feel that there is no room for dad when it comes to the breastfed baby. We are taught not to pump for 2 months, breastfeed on demand, stare at your baby, cuddle your baby, wake up every hour at night and nurse 15x a day, be there for your baby AT ALL TIMES. Where's dads spot? Where does dad fit into this this equation? I often argued with my husband about me doing all the work when in the reality my baby chose me to do all the work. They didn't want dad. They wanted a warm breast, warm milk, long hair to wrap around their tiny fingers, a soft spot in the perfect place. A woman was built to do this and her infant was meant to need her.

My son is a mama's boy and my daughter is mama's girl. It is apparent at all times, it's probably the only thing my husband gets jealous about (I'm pretty sure he could do without all the hard work). Dad shouldn't get credit for my lactating boobs, 3am feedings at 14 months (yes, 14 months) and hard work. They are mines :)


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Every situation is different, this is mines. If your breastfed baby geared towards their father, congrats to you, you have been given an extra 30 minute break in your day :)
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Child Psych 101

When I was pregnant with my Accidental Love Bug, Summer, I was attending my 2nd year of college. I took child psych enthusiastically, thinking it would prepare me for this growing bean in my bulging belly. It taught me all sorts of stuff. The best advice (I thought at the time) from what I can remember now (after too much NickJr and being a stay at home mom) was letting my child be a free child. Parents usually stick their infants in many devices to stay hands free. It is said most infants are in devices (stroller, car seat, playpenbounce chair, etc.) more then they are in their parents arms.

Letting your kids roam free Safely was the best thing you could do for you child, the psych book basically said "ditch the play pen". So before my bouncing watermelon entered the world, I was anti-Playpen. I wanted to raise a "Free Range" baby and so I did!

My little baby girl went from laying in bed like a sack of potatoes, to sitting in mommy's lap assisted, exploring the world as far as her little beady eyes would let her. She followed all the normal baby stuff. Poop, pee, make mommy crazy, oh yeah and Crawl. The dreaded Crawl.

Life was sweet before that horrid milestone reached our lives. I never did take child psych 2, but Im sure it would of said something like this

"Although letting your child be free is recommended, I personally suggest you don't try it. Why, You ask!?

Because no matter how much you baby proof and watch your child, he or she will manage to

find a cord she can tug on,
get a toy she can bang against the glass coffee table you should of got rid of
find a 2 month old french fry you never knew about,
jet to the cat and dog water bowl all within 10 seconds for a nice hand wash
play with the dust bunnies you forgot to wipe away (hey Im not super mom, I cant do it all),
take a sip from the cup of soda you confidently left on the floor
Pull out every DVD you ever owned
And learn the word "No" in a day because You said it 1 billion times (yes you do say it that much)."

The book failed to tell me my child will eventually walk, and reach things she never did before, have a different view of life, and get to things faster then she did yesterday.

Summer is almost 3 now and is still a free range child. She fends for her self, she acts as if she was raised with a pack of wolves (no literally, shes regressed to getting on her fours, eating without her hands and begging for food lol). She is a very happy independent child. She knows her boundaries and likes to push them, she has no limits to life, but with my guide and safety I can show her the way.

I'm making the Same bitter sweet mistake with her baby Brother!